To anyone who answered affirmatively to the question posed above, I strongly urge you to read this and tell me what you think.

The book follows a middle aged woman, the author herself, going on a road trip to "find herself" and save her marriage, her family, and her fractured identity as woman aging out of sexual visibility.

The book is essentially in three parts (technically four, but the last part is not much of anything), the first being the road trip, the second being the falling out from her road trip, and the third part being what is ostensibly presented as a reckoning of the first two parts.

The thing is, I truly doubt anyone but a woman who is EXACTLY like the protagonist would understand the relational logic agonized over in this book. The author is flighty, anxious, cold and somehow overly emotional, narcisstic, a selfish lover, a terrible wife, a questionable mother, and a bit BPD. She is truly unlikable-- Not in a currently popular Otessa Moshfegh loveable, kinda stinky, femcel way, but in a way reminiscent of a West Coast liberal stay at home mom with a "in this house we believe," sign and a black-square-posting Instagram account. However, as much as I struggled with the voice of the novel, with the constant mentions of a nonbinary child, and with cringe descriptions of lesbian sex, I came around to appreciate "All Fours" for what it is by the end of the third act. It's a peek into the mind of someone I truly cannot relate to, and it's a peek into the human decisions that go into a lifestyle that seems, on it's face, completely ridiculous and kind of evil. The twisted logic justifying blowing up her entire family life doesn't make sense, the outcome is deplorable and unsatisfying, and ultimately I feel kind of bad for her kid. Still, I have to admit, in a very, very strange way, it's humanizing.