Dec 20, 2025 5:20 AM
One of those books that revisits very old ideas coming from a different path. I don’t know if the book is good, but the ideas still are.
Blanton’s basic idea is that modern life asks of us to lie and carry the lie, a skill we learn around the teenage years and that most of us never give up. But a lie is a crime against reality: it tries and goes against it, facing great resistance. The lie thus weighs on us, and eventually kills us (stress, addiction, etc.). So, his answer is: don’t lie. Tell the truth. Better, always tell the truth, even when it’s inconvenient (for instance, please do tell your young female patient you find her sexy on her first therapy appointment), even when the other one is not ready nor willing to hear it, until you purge yourself of it, even if it splatters on your fellow human.
So Blanton is insane, and apparently mainly concerned with his well-being. He is also both sincere and edgy in an old-school kind of way (I kind of picture him living the life on a Harley Davidson, and posting pre-2010 Anonymous manifestos while pumping gas :
We are an antidote to the poison of conventional education we have received. We wish to make us all more like animals. We are still angry, but we are less angry than the calm-looking phonies who have control of the bomb. We are less blinded by anger than your average pathetic rationalizing miserable bastard, engaged in the normal politics of experience. We are the new teachers. We are out to save the world. We are against politeness as a substitute for the truth because that politeness kills. Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Fuck politeness. Fuck diplomacy. Tell the truth.
Despite that, and the debatable personal cosmology he exposes as a background for his theory, he shares some interesting thoughts.
Like most psychological thoughts, his agrees with the idea that mental chatter, explanations and justifications regarding desires, what is and what should be are always a distraction. Psychoanalysis tries to undo the knot around which the chatter aggregates by finding the right thread to pull, CBT and modern cognitive psychology try to cut through it, prayer offers to abandon it to God, yoga controls it through body discipline, other approaches try to ignore it, but everyone agrees: this is the main issue. The distraction’s goal is, of course, to cover the .
In some ways, Blanton meets and picks up where Didion left her Self-Respect essay. His solution to stop the game of explaining away your life and struggles is to take full responsibility (and not guilt, which would be another way to add to the knot), meaning the acceptance that “whatever you are doing, you are willing to experience yourself as the cause”. If the inner struggle is our own little theater we willingly set up to distract us from more pressing concerns, then accepting responsibility for all the characters (some might say: reintegrating the different parts of a fragmented self) is the solution to stop telling ourselves stories lying to ourselves.
The person who says he wants to lose weight, but says he just can’t give up midnight snacks, may believe he is in a struggle between “being good” and “giving in” to his cravings, but in fact he has already chosen to keep snacking. The “struggle” that he describes serves to hide this fact. (…) Our energy is totally invested in maintaining our lives the way they are, and the phony struggle for change only conceals the ways in which the status quo serves us. Our apparent battle for change is a tempest in a teapot. As long as I identify my “self” only as that desire to change and not also as a presently more powerful desire to remain the same, I will remain stuck. In a sense, I can change, finally, only by giving up trying to change.
Like Didion put it, it’s “a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth”. Blanton’s discipline is maintained through continually telling the truth, learning to let go of the lie, and staying “awake” (“liberated”) through activity (direct experience of the world) and community (i.e. helping others) - all of them tried and tested solutions to an old problem.
Then Blanton went on founding half-heartily the religion of futilitarianism, but as I told earlier, he is insane.
2 Comments
6 days ago
Of course, the Radical Honesty Institute has a €2800 8 day Radical Honesty workshop, should you need some practical training. Funnily enough, they have parted ways with Blanton. This is from their website: Brad used his power for sexual gratification and failed to acknowledge the impact of his power on those who sought his support. Our investigation uncovered disturbing misconduct, including but not limited to: - Normalizing verbal abuse, misogyny, and racial and sexist slurs. - Financial exploitation of followers and employees, particularly women. - Dealing inappropriately with behaviors such as sexual harassment, assault, and other abuses. - Soliciting clients, participants, and employees for sex, including offering money for sex. - Promoting a disregard for ethical standards, fostering a cult-like culture within the Radical Honesty community.
6 days ago
Lol. He is insane. Thank you for the details ahahah